Is there such a thing as “unconditional love”?

I have been wondering, does anyone express true care and concern? Doesn’t everyone do things to gain some personal reward? When we work, it is because we expect to be paid. When we volunteer, we want to feel some kind of satisfaction, either as a productive citizen or simply a useful worker.  When we care for others, we do it hoping that what we do creates comfort in ourselves as caretakers.  When we teach, we expect the students to show improvement in their learning so that we can feel we have accomplished something.  Almost everything we do, if not everything,   is done with some expectation of a reward.  We want to get something out of it.  How about mother’s love to her child?  Mother instinct;  it is in her genes for the survival of the human race.  We act and behave to survive.  Survival of the fittest.

Or is it?  Is there such as thing as true care and genuine love?  I am talking about the kind of care for others without any expectation of a personal reward.  The religious would probably say it  is Jesus, God, or some other deity that shows us this kind of love.  If this is true, does it really happen in this world?  We write songs and poems about true love and self sacrifice.  Can we really experience this, or do we just wish and dream about it?  Does it truly exist?  Is it even possible to love others unconditionally?

4 thoughts on “Is there such a thing as “unconditional love”?

  1. if you look at it that way, then i guess unconditional love is very very rare if it exists at all. for me, unconditional love simply means caring for someone and not expecting that person to give anything back. the personal satisfaction i feel for myself is the reward itself.thanks for posting! you really made me think…

  2. At first read, I was thinking that yes, unconditional love exists in my life. We have two adult children. I would literally lay down my life to save them. Then I reread the post – “and not expecting that person to give anything back….” I then realized I do not feel unconditional love, because the one thing I do expect is they do everything in their ability to take care of themselves, and be happy. I almost made the criteria – maybe it is rare after all.

    • Texasjune, thanks for reading and commenting. If you expect them to take care of themselves, is it still a personal reward, or are you selflessly hoping they do good? If you have no personal gain at all, then I would consider it unconditional love.

  3. Every parent receives a personal blessing of accomplished purpose when their children mature, are independent, and find happiness in their lives. It’s the ultimate goal of parenting. Since we all know that parents are not perfect people, the budding maturity springs from the awareness of the child to use their own developing talents to make their way through their world. They deserve the credit. The positive consequence is – a parent is rewarded by knowing and liking them, and to feel respect for them they have earned.

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