We create our own worlds in our minds… We create images and ideas in our minds, which creates our realities. .. When we like someone, it is not the person itself but the idea that we have of the person that we like. When we go through some difficult situation, it is the interpretation or the idea of the situation that we dislike. Everything we experience is through our interpretations, our ideas. So I have learned to break down my ideas and images. So I have started to dissect what we call “reality.”
I see people driving down the road in high speed, and my first instinct reaction is to get mad at them. But then I ask, why am I choosing to be mad? What thoughts and perceptions do I have about people driving fast that are triggering the anger? Then I find no good reason to feel anything, except to be cautious.
Then I have a disagreement with my spouse, and she withdraws. I also isolate myself in rebellion. I automatically feel upset and nervous, but then I question the reason why I feel so anxious. What am I afraid of? Argument? Separation? Being alone?
The next day I may be at work and trying to meet a deadline. I feel anxious that I may not do the job on time. Then I stop myself and rethink. I take a deep breath. I dispute the reason why I may be feeling anxious. What is the worst that could happen? Is there a need to feel this anxious?
I look back at all the things I have learned to take for granted. I have taken a second look at all the things I thought were simply “normal” and “acceptable”. And I start questioning them.
Assumptions. Beliefs. Customs. Expectations. Discriminations. Family traditions. Habits. Ideologies. Myths. Obsessions. Religions. Social rituals. Values. World views.
They all can be taken apart… dissected. They all can be questioned and dismissed. We don’t have to adopt any of them if we don’t really want to.
They are all in our minds.
They all can be dissected.