Our minds control our lives.
We often say to other people “Try not to think about it” , “Don’t be so negative” or “Try to be positive.” What we are really saying is, “Change your thoughts and perceptions about the situation.”
We often reflect with our words the reality that most of our experiences are based on our thoughts and perceptions. Our lives are basically dictated by the ideas and concepts we have in our minds. The interesting thing is that most of the time we do not realize it.
Our minds are so powerful, and yet we don’t recognize that we can control it so that we can control our circumstances. In other words, we are able to change the way we think if we choose to.
The challenge comes when we unconsciously identify with whatever it is that we have chosen to value in our lives. And we identify with it simply because we do not want to accept the inevitable fact of our mortality. And it becomes an automatic habit which we do not rethink about. It is normal to perceive ourselves as white, black, Mr. and Mrs. Jones, a teacher, a construction worker, a mom, a dad, a Cubs fan, an American, a soldier, etc. It makes us who (we think) we are.
In previous blog posts, I have talked about how our thoughts and ideas can be used to feed our ego, which is the fabricated self that we keep nurturing in order to avoid thinking about our own mortality.
So we choose, or we are taught to identify with, a family name, a particular race, ethnicity, political party, profession, etc. Simply because we want to maintain ourselves distracted and entertained with identities that help us feel alive and valued. In other words, away from the reality of our death, the ultimate unknown. So we keep deceiving ourselves.
Also, when we say “Good luck!” or “I’ll pray for you!”, we are basically saying that, because we cannot control or directly intervene with a difficult situation, we wish someone else a favorable outcome by thinking they may receive some assistance from an outside source beyond our control. In other words, I cannot help you directly, but I am claiming that somehow you receive some help beyond my human capacity.
So, pay attention to what you think. Review and contemplate on how each statement you make can reflect the fear of the unknown. Fear of your mortality.
Think about your thoughts.