Think of one thing that troubles you.
Bills. Physical pain. Difficult marriage. Dirty dishes in the sink. A noisy neighbor.
Now think of it among other circumstances that surround it .
Bills of things you already enjoy. Physical pain with healthy mind . Difficult marriages with wonderful children/pets. Dirty dishes but the kitchen or house are cleaner (or it’s an indication you have food to eat) . Noisy neighbor but at least you are not alone in the universe.
When you consider other circumstances surrounding whatever bothers and troubles you, the pain itself becomes a little smaller .
If you look at the blank piece of white paper, with a black little dot close to one of its corner , what will you notice first?
The little dot.
No matter how small it is, your focus will be on the dot.
No matter if the dot is on one side or close to the corner of the paper, your focus will be on the dot .
Why is that?
We like to be pessimists. We tend to look at the negative . So we miss the bigger picture. We tend to obsess about what is perceived as a threat or a nuisance.
So stepping back and looking at the bigger picture will help to alleviate the frustration and the pain that comes when we only focus on the negative .